The first step to controlling envy is to understand what envy is. And envy is just another form of fear. When you envy another person’s accomplishments or possessions. It’s your minds way of adapting to the fear you have of not obtaining your desires and wants. You envy a person with the career you want because you are scared you will never have that career. You envy a person in a healthy relationship because you are scared you will never have a healthy relationship. You envy the person with a lot of money because you are scared you will never accumulate that amount of money.